When is it Time to Walk Away?

When is it Time to Walk Away?

Step number 1 in my new book, Fit 2 Love, is about cleaning the slate. I outline a few different areas of life to do that: physical body, physical environment, emotional baggage, and current relationships.

I am going to focus on the last one, current relationships, and use a personal example from my own life.  Current relationships can be any person, group or environment you are currently participating with.

In my case, it’s a group.

About 6 months ago, a client of mine invited me to check out a group that offered support around the areas of allowing, accepting and trusting in a higher power.  It was exactly what I needed at the time.

Why I did I need to go?

I need to back up a bit and tell you that I grew up in a very positive, supportive, loving home.  I was allowed to do, be, and say just about anything I wanted and I was given respect and trust from the beginning.  Still to this day on most subjects, my parents support my decisions and question only to learn about my choices or to keep me safe by offering another opinion if asked.

This environment gave me permission to make my choices, learn my lessons and decide for myself what was acceptable or unacceptable behavior in my life. They were great examples in many areas and I know I am blessed to have chosen them as my parents before I was born.

In thinking about having children or even just looking at the relationships I currently have- I saw a need for me to practice accepting things that scare me.  There aren’t that many that really trigger me, but I have a few that I am currently aware of.  I want to be able t o provide my family the loving and accepting environment that I had in order for them to grow in a safe environment.

This group is free and meets often. I decided to pick one day a week I could commit to for many months. When I first started going, I heard success stories of people who had been through much more than I have and I was inspired to see them living a happy life regardless of what was happening around them.

This inspired feeling last a few weeks and then went away.  I started to not really get anything out of the meetings about a month ago.  But I do see evidence that I have grown by how I deal with clients and friends- I keep my mouth shut more now then I have before.  I can notice where people are and allow them to be there instead of having to push them along faster to get out of pain. When people pay me to help them, that’s what I want to do.  But I have become better at knowing when to offer my guidance and when to just be supportive.

About 3 week ago, I went to a meeting and have a very negative experience.  I left feeling badly and took the rest of the day to undo the damage.  There are many people in the room who are going through very tough times.  My life is going well so sitting in this energy for 90 minutes actually brought me down.

I calibrated to their energy.


Authored by: JJ Flizanes

JJ Flizanes is an Empowerment Strategist. She is the Director of Invisible Fitness, an Amazon best-selling author of Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life, and author of Knack Absolute Abs: Routines for a Fit and Firm Core, and was named Best Personal Trainer in Los Angeles for 2007 by Elite Traveler Magazine. JJ vividly reminds us that the word ‘fitness’ is not just about the state of one’s physical body, but also the factors which determine a person’s overall well being. And, for JJ, the key components in all these areas are ‘invisible’ — balanced support structures of nutrition, emotional centeredness and health. A video expert for About.com and regular contributor for The Daily Love, JJ has been featured in many national magazines such as Shape, Fitness, Muscle and Fitness HERS, Elegant Bride, and Women’s Health as well as appeared on NBC, CBS, Fox 11 and KTLA. For her clients & followers, JJ designs customized coaching programs and unique, versatile approaches that harmonize the emotional, the mental and the spiritual. Find out more at Invisiblefitness.com or jjflizanes.com .

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