This week, however, there’s no interest in the housing market. Rather, another kind of selling short is in focus as our kids approach 15 and 17 years respectively. I’m referring to short selling oneself in the marketplace of personal relationships. When it comes to dissuading young people from pre-marital sex or promiscuity, approaches often focus on health hazards and the consequences of teen parenthood.
While I firmly believe Dads should inform their sons of the contorting effect of venereal disease, I’m an advocate of incentive based behavior modification. Towards that end, our children have pre-ordered Bugatti Super Sports waiting for them if they stay out of trouble until they’re married.
My predilection for this approach, as a compliment to Fire and Brimstone, is its drive for positives versus avoidance of negatives. The quest for the ultimate prize can be powerful. Young people convinced of their own exceptionalism, would avoid the “short sell” and build a relationship where each is worthy of the other. Some call that true love and I couldn’t agree more.
Working against them is the culture at large, which rewards one-week TV marriages and sports “heroes” boasting thousands of conquests. Lord knows there are some factions bent on destroying any remnant of self-esteem in the population at large, particularly in our youth. There’s not a child above six years of age that hasn’t been taught humans are a blight on a planet they’re destroying, and anyone who EARNS a six figure income is an evil one per center.
So since we can’t afford a pair of Bugattis, we’re working on building genuine self esteem in our children through goals, achievements and targeted water boarding on failures. Whether in real estate or relationships, whatever it takes, we’re determined to help them avoid the “short sale.”