After a long-term relationship or marriage, starting to date again can be a minefield. If you are a single mom your dating conversation has to be different. To tell or not to tell a prospective date that you have children is one of the most frequently asked questions amongst the single moms I coach.
Being a single mom doesn’t have to be your “obstacle”
The truth is being a single mother can be one of your most attractive assets, if you work it that way. Men are attracted to a positive attitude and confidence, and presenting the fact that you are, indeed, a single mom can be a plus.
Be selective in your sharing
This doesn’t mean that you should tell every single guy you meet that you’re raising a child– it’s not the time and place, and not every single one of them is going to prove to be someone that you really want to get to know better. You’re just having fun!
Like me like my kids
A guy who is genuinely interested in you won’t mind when you tell him about your kids. I suggest you’re up front about your children. That way you eliminate the non-qualifiers without any emotional investment. A guy who likes you, the first time you meet, or after your first date will be impressed that you’re an amazing single mom on top of all of the other amazing things about you! And like the Dr. Seuss quote says, “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind!”
Bottom line: Share your circumstances with confidence and pride. You’re a beautiful catch and a beautiful single mom! For more single mom tips and advice visit www.kerrizane.com or follow Kerri on twitter @kerrizane.
Guest Writer – Kerri Zane
Kerri is an Emmy award winning television executive producer, healthy living expert, single mom advisor, speaker, and author of “It Takes All 5: A Single Mom’s Guide to Finding the REAL One.” published by Morgan James, (November 2012). She is the family travel expert for Peter Greenberg Online, a regular contributor to What’s Up For Kids as well as various mommy blogs.