Love the One You’re With

Pop quiz, all you music lovers out there in radio land. Who sang this song?

Don’t be angry, don’t be sad
Don’t sit crying over good times you’ve had
There’s a girl right next to you
And she’s just waiting for something to do

OK, one more hint.

And if you can’t be with the one you love honey
Love the one you’re with…doo doo doo doo love the one you’re with…

“No it’s not “The Lady Ga Ga” you youngsters. That’s a 1970 oldie but goodie from Stephen Stills…but you knew that…and now a word from our sponsor”

OK, enough with the DJ bit. So why the 42 year flashback? Well, no matter how fast the world changes, one thing that’s certain is the first crush. There comes a time when a young boy or girl looks at another person and sees someone who’s not just a playdate…well, check that…they might still be a playdate but the game has definitely changed, if you know what I mean. Also, when you have Tourettes and you’re somewhat obsessive/compulsive, the game is slightly more challenging.

“Dad, I think she doesn’t like me anymore.” Our son was confiding in me during our nightly bedside recap.

“How many times did you say ‘hi’ to her today?”

“About 17.”

“Hmmmm, do you think maybe one time would have been enough?”

“Yeah, I guess so. I’ll try that tomorrow. G’Night”

“OK, cool. G’Night.”

I’m sure the young lady of his desire is a very sweet kid, who’s not quite sure how to deal with his sometimes loveable, sometimes annoying eccentricities. As he enters high school I suspect we’ll have A LOT more of these conversations. He’ll overcome his challenges and have more loveable than annoying moments. What we hope to teach him is how to build the self esteem to love someone who loves him for what he does and vice versa. If he can learn that, he’ll love the one he’s with…doo doo doo doo doo doo do do.