Yes, we avoid entering their room when possible, because we know what it will look like…and it isn’t good. The floor may not even be visible; cluttered with clothing, papers, books, back pack spilling out and maybe even dirty dishes. It is so easy to close the door & walk away. Not only is this difficult to look at, it actually can decrease their productivity, academics, self-esteem and socialization.
So…and since we ARE the parent & responsible to help them to be responsible they need our wisdom on this. The room does not have to meet Martha Stewart’s or a professional organizer’s standards. It just needs to be useable…sometimes just getting from the doorway to the bed or closet!
My favorite method of organizing, just about anything, is the “salami technique.” Simple explanation: in order to consume a chub of salami you need to slice it into eatable pieces. Thus the salami technique….dividing things into workable pieces….bit by bit!
- Pick up the clothes & place in closet or hamper.
- Replace books to shelf or wherever they are stored.
- Hang backpack on hook or even door knob.
- Empty backpack each day after school. Stuff collects and some can actually become smelly!
- Remove all dishes, glasses, food from room daily.
Assign one of these (slices) bits of the problem at a time: daily, before activities (TV, computer, etc.) or before bedtime.
The entire room can be overwhelming to the child & the parent.
Reward for child: some activity…TV, computer, out to play, etc.
Reward for parent: Less stress and control as a parent.
Ann Gambrell 7/2015