Giving Your Child a Strong Foundation with PCIT

Giving Your Child a Strong Foundation with PCIT

Children, like all of us, are motivated by positive attention and reciprocity in relationships. Positive feedback from our boss helps us to do our job better. A compliment from a friend or co-worker sets a positive mood for the whole day. A friend who listens to your experience of a bad day helps get you through it. As adults when we feel valued, important and good about ourselves we are motivated to be our best. The same is true for children. This is the foundation of the PCIT (Parent Child Interaction Therapy) program.

Simple concepts such as Praise, Reflections and Behavioral Descriptions go a very long way toward building a positive relationship between caregiver and child and reducing disruptive behaviors. The PCIT program begins by teaching caregivers these very simple skills to develop a strong foundation of trust and attunement. Only once the foundation is laid do we move forward to teach behavior management strategies. Just like adults, children are more willing to follow directions from people whom they trust, feel good about and know feel good about them too.

We start with Praise – telling the child what you like that they are doing. Not only does this generally make everyone feel good but it increases the likelihood that this good behavior will be repeated. “Thank you for treating the toys so gently today” reminds the child that this is the caregiver’s expectation, helps them feel proud of themselves for meeting this expectation and chances are that tomorrow the child will remember that good feeling and play gently with the toys.

Reflection is next – repeating back to the child what they have just said to you. This lets the child know that the caregiver is listening, values what they have to say and approves of them. Appropriate verbalizations are likely to increase and the relationship improves based on this improved communication. “You did draw a circle,” reminds the child that the caregiver is paying attention not just to their words but to their actions as well. It increases their self-esteem and decreases the likelihood that they will engage in negative attention seeking behaviors.

Behavior Descriptions is another key skill – describing what the child is doing with their hands during their play. This skill serves to again let the child know that the caregiver is paying attention to them, it reminds the child what are appropriate behaviors (caregivers will only describe acceptable behavior), it makes their play time more interactive and enjoyable, as well as building vocabulary and concept development. “You are building a tall tower with red and green blocks,” lets the child know the caregiver is present with them, approves of their play, reinforces color awareness and encourages the child to keep building and playing in an appropriate manner.

While the concepts are simple and logical, the outcomes are extraordinary: improved relationship between child and caregiver, reduction of disruptive behaviors, improved speech and communication skills, reduction of parental stress and enhanced self-esteem. This strong foundation in the child’s early years can build resiliency that will last a lifetime.

Guest Writer – Jocelyn Clegg

Jocelyn Clegg is the Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) Clinical Manager at Counseling4Kids, a nonprofit organization that provides health and healing to abused and neglected children and youth in the foster care system. For more information on programs and services or to get involved please visit www.counseling4kids.org or contact (310) 436-8921.

Authored by: Cathy Alessandra

Cathy Alessandra is a wife, a mother of three, the founder of the Today's Innovative Woman, and the creator of What's Up For Kids, LLC. What's Up For Kids was founded in 1995 based on the need of finding information about local events and activities - all in one place. As a parent, Cathy will help you find the resources you need in an easy to use format within What's Up For Kids. As a business woman, Cathy will help you with all your marketing needs. Cathy was awarded the 2011 Top 50 Momprenuer of the Year award by Babble.com and has been featured on cbs.com and KFWB - Los Angeles as well as being named a finalist in the 2011 Ali Brown Platinum Excellence Awards. Find out more about Cathy at http://www.CathyAlessandra.com

There is 1 comment for this article
  1. Liann Smith at 9:46 pm

    Thanks so much for addressing this. Not enough people are aware of PCIT and its benefits yet. I have also seen the wonderful outcomes of the exercise. PCIT just 5 minutes a day between a parent and child can completely transform the bond between them.

    In fact, you may find the video that is posted here helpful. This is a demonstration of PCIT in a training lab that I recorded at Encompass in North Bend, WA. Unlike any others that I have seen, a real child is engaging in real PCIT.

    http://impactparenting.com/impact-parenting-blog/video-showing-pride-parenting-skills-in-action-through-pcit.html

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