How can I help my child handle stress?

How can I help my child handle stress?

Stress is the way our bodies and minds react to a particular challenge or situation. By recognizing the signs and symptoms of stress, you can help your child learn to manage his or her responses in a healthier way.

Plenty of scenarios can cause stress – good or bad – in a child’s life. A student may feel anxious about giving a class presentation, but that “good” stress can be used to inspire him or her to focus and prepare for the challenge. An example of “bad” stress is when a child feels so overwhelmed with a problem at home or at school that it interferes with his or her ability to function normally. In these situations, the body activates a “fight-or-flight” response, resulting in heightened focus, strength and alertness. Once the child learns how to recognize a stressful situation, he or she can begin to make good decisions when managing stress.

Parents can help their children learn to be more resilient and to manage the stress that accompanies new challenges by allowing them to feel safe to express their emotions, work on problem-solving skills and practice relaxation techniques. Proper rest, good nutrition and maintenance of daily routines can help boost coping skills.

A moderate level of stress is normal and helping a child manage and overcome stressful situations will enhance their ability to cope with stress in the future. The time to seek professional help is when any change in behavior persists over a period of time, causes serious anxiety, or causes significant physical or social problems.

Signs of stress may include:

• Irritability and moodiness
• Anxiety and panic attacks
• Muscle tension
• Rapid heartbeat and breathing
• Difficulty separating from caregivers
• Frequent headaches and stomach pains
• Sadness and withdrawal
• Sleep problems
• School problems
• Changes in eating patterns

When to seek help
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is often used to help children learn stress management skills and to teach them how to better manage their time and find healthier ways to cope. In extreme cases, anti-anxiety medication may be recommended.

Guest Writer-Dr. Sangalang is a family medicine physician at the UCLA Health office in Palos Verdes, located at 501 Deep Valley Drive, Suite 100. For more information visit or call (310) 303-3953.

Authored by: Cindy Donnelly

Cindy has worked for What's Up for Kids for over 19 years and is thrilled to take over as owner/publisher. She loves helping South Bay parents connect with resources and working with camps, schools and other businesses to get the word out about their quality programs and services for families. For marketing information you can contact her at

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *