Birthday Dilemma

Birthday Dilemma

Birthday DilemaEvery year as my kids birthdays roll around, the first question that comes up is “how many friends can I have?”  A guest list for any kid is a very big deal and making sure that no ones feelings get hurt in the process is key.  By the time your child is five years old they can help you decide who they want to invite.  You can establish some guidelines by choosing how many guests they can have and then help them decide who to invite.  Once you have taken into consideration the budget, space and availability, here are some rules to follow:

  • A good rule of thumb is to invite one more person than their age.  So if they are turning 7, invite 8 kids.
  • Mail or email your invitations instead of handing them out in class.
  • Try not to exclude people if possible.  Particularly if you are inviting most of the soccer team, or most of your classmates.
  • If you are not inviting everyone in their class, or soccer team, make sure you talk to your child about not talking about it in front of people who are not included.  Hearing about a party you are not invited to will always create hurt feelings.

If your child is having a hard time cutting back their invite list, find a way to possibly include their friends by offering to bring cookies to the next soccer game or ask their teacher if they can hand out a small prize at the end of one class day to celebrate with everyone.  That way your child will feel like everyone was a part of their special day.





Authored by: Kari Doody

Certified etiquette trainer Kari Doody, owner of Courteous and Cool etiquette School here in the South bay, is teaching kids, tweens and teens manners for the modern world. As a mother of three children, she understands the daily issues we all face as parents. The world may be constantly evolving but , but the basic principals of etiquette still hold strong and true. For more information visit Courteous and Cool Etiquette School.

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