About Kari Doody

Certified etiquette trainer Kari Doody, owner of Courteous and Cool etiquette School here in the South bay, is teaching kids, tweens and teens manners for the modern world. As a mother of three children, she understands the daily issues we all face as parents. The world may be constantly evolving but , but the basic principals of etiquette still hold strong and true. For more information visit Courteous and Cool Etiquette School.

Five Points to a Proper Thank You Note

Thank you note, etiquette, children's etiquetteThe holidays are here and one of the most important things to teach your children is how to write a proper thank you note. Showing appreciation for gifts is the only way to continue receiving gifts. Although technology has made it easy for us to connect with each other it is still important to hand write a thank you note. Follow this simple five-point step to the proper thank-you and it will never fail you. [Read more…]

Positive Impressions

Social skills, positive impressionThis past weekend I volunteered as a timer at my daughter’ swim meet. This gave me a chance to talk to hundreds of children and teens, and it was amazing to witness the wide range of poise, grace, and manners among these youth. [Read more…]

Dealing with Conflict

Kari Doody - Dealing with ConflictNo one likes to deal with conflict. It’s an uncomfortable situation for anyone to handle. So what is the best way to teach our kids how to handle it? The first step is to have your child figure out if they have a small problem or big problem. If they have a big problem (anything that makes the child feel threatened or scared), or have tried resolving a small problem on their own and it hasn’t worked, they should tell a trusted adult. [Read more…]

Making the Most of your First Day of School!

Kari Doody - Making the Most of your First Day of School!Going back to school can be a very exciting time for kids. Knowing how to prepare your child for the first day of school is key in making sure that they start the year off right. Even more important than school supplies and a new backpack is bringing a good attitude with you. [Read more…]

Kids Don’t Come with Filters

Kari Doody - Kid's Don't Come With FiltersMy sister called me last night to ask me what to do about her 5 year old who just doesn’t seem to know how to watch what he says. I asked her what she meant, and she told me that her son can be “too frank.” We know that sometimes kids say things that are totally embarrassing, to the point that you wish you could just disappear. We’ve all been there when all of the sudden your little darling loudly and inappropriately speaks their mind. In this case my nephew was at a birthday party that was a princess theme and when they brought the cake out which had a beautiful sparkly princess on it, he announced that he wouldn’t eat a princess cake. [Read more…]


Beach UmbrellaLiving in the South bay has its perks and being able to go to the beach is definitely one of them. However, just because we are outdoors, doesn’t mean we can throw our manners out the door. This summer remind your kids that manners are important wherever you go. Here are some tips to remember when going to the beach: [Read more…]

Are Good Manners Really that Important?

Kari Doody MannersIn one of my recent classes a student of mine kept asking me why having manners was so important? In his words he said “I don’t get it? My friends don’t care if I have good manners or not?” He persistently made comments throughout the lesson and was not easily sold on its importance. Children today roll their eyes when they hear their parents say “use your manners.” What they don’t understand this early in life is how NOT having proper social skills can effect them in their future. [Read more…]

May I ask who is calling?

Child On TelephoneYesterday, I received a phone call from one of my kids friends. When I picked up the telephone, he said “Hi, who is this?” I politely responded with, “Well hello, who may I ask is calling? The young voice on the other end then proceeded to tell me who he was and and wanted to know if my son was home? This is very typical of kids today. However, it is not the correct way to make a phone call.  Telephone etiquette is one skill you will use your entire life. Many times, a person’s first impression of you is based on how you speak to them over the telephone, so it is important to be courteous and polite on the telephone and to learn what is and is not appropriate when answering the phone. [Read more…]

Poor Sport Parents

Baseball Sportsmanship PhotoSpringtime always seems to bring out a competitive nature out in all of us.  Maybe it’s because the weather is getting warmer and our kids are fully immersed into spring sports. We all love to cheer on our kids and sometimes can’t help ourselves from cheering when someone on the opposing team misses the ball.  Sometimes a line is crossed when you get a parent who goes overboard and constantly verbalizes their negative opinions. The question is, what can be done about parents who yell at refs, lecture coaches or taunt the opposing team? [Read more…]


Kids, Technology and MannersAs my family and I were driving home from a vacation, I couldn’t help but think about the evolution of family road trips. Not too long ago, kids and parents would all talk to each other during the long car rides. Now, they pile into the car with their cell phones, iPods, iPads in hand and the rest of the trip is spent preoccupied and not talking with the people sitting next to them. It’s a much quieter ride for sure, however, part of me is concerned what we are teaching our children. [Read more…]