- Your life will change. It has to. You, and your former spouse, will be financially supporting two households rather than one.
- Lawyers speak lawyer speak. If you don’t understand the terminology don’t be afraid to ask your attorney to explain anything and everything. The money you spend on the small details could save you big in the long run.
- Watch their charges. Lawyers are service providers and they are in business to make money. There hourly charges may include the time it took to answer your email, phone call or making copies at the copier. When you engage a lawyer make sure he or she discloses everything their hourly charges include.
- Question their advice. A lawyer may advise you to proceed in one manner or another, but it may not address the deeper emotional or mental comfort you are looking for. Ask them to provide you with alternative scenarios. Also, get a second opinion from an expert in the field you are discussing.
- Nobody wins. In divorce, nobody wins. It is a mentally, physically and fiscally draining process. The best way to try and ease through the process is to mitigate your emotional attachment to your former spouse, former life, and especially any material anything.
Finally, remember that the health, happiness and well-being of your children comes first. Assure them that your love will never waiver and you will do your best to see that their quality of life is least affected by the changes around them.
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Guest Writer – Kerri Zane
Kerri is an Emmy award winning television executive producer, healthy living expert, single mom advisor, speaker, and author of “It Takes All 5: A Single Mom’s Guide to Finding the REAL One.” published by Morgan James, (November 2012). She is the family travel expert for Peter Greenberg Online, a regular contributor to What’s Up For Kids as well as various mommy blogs.